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Not that I’ve ever been in that business, but I’d think tips are mostly for extra spending money, since a lot of the paycheck they get might go toward bills and/or rent.
At less than three bucks per hour (as quoted by the…
Sorry to inject myself into this one as well, but actually, it’s rather common for servers to lose all of their paychecks to taxes. Tips are servers’ incomes—servers in the US generally don’t even think about their paychecks. If anything, the paycheck is the little extra spending money.
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There’s an excellent post on the finer points of tipping the servers in the US and I cannot for the life of me fathom why don’t the industry just start paying its workers a decent living wage? After all, if you can’t afford to pay…
My assumption that you are UK-based was due to the fact that you referenced tipping in the US as if it were an “other”; that is, the language led me to believe you are not based in the US. However, you clearly have a strong command of the English language, which led me to believe that you are from an English-speaking country. I guessed UK because the posts I come across on tumblr tend to be either North American, UK, or Aussie. In Canada, the servers also deal with similar tipping issues as in the US—although they are paid a slightly higher wage, and therefore in turn the tipping standards are slightly lower—so I ruled that out; Australia/New Zealand has similar standards as the UK, but without the generational difference, and the customers from down under I’ve encountered typically didn’t care much about servers’ pay or tips (although I’m aware their servers are paid quite well); the UK customers I’ve encountered were generally both interested and interesting to me for the reason I mentioned, so I reasoned the author was likely from there (and, I thought I remembered mohawkcub as being from the UK, but now I’m second-guessing that and am thinking not). In the end, you’re right, perhaps it was rude to guess at the region. It wasn’t just a stab in the dark, though. Regardless, I apologize for that.
I agree that it’s silly to assume servers would do a poorer job if their incomes were not guaranteed. In my experience, it’s quite the opposite, because it’s the undeserved bad tips that stick with you, not the good ones. No matter where I’ve worked and what the practice or client-base was, I’ve always been the most attentive when I knew the gratuity would be included; the alternative is a risk, and I’d had enough tables and experience to know that people tip less based on what they think the server deserves because of his or her effort, and more based on what they think the server deserves because of his or her station in life. In other words, shitty tippers will always be shitty tippers, and great tippers will always be great tippers. But if I knew going in that the tip was going to be included, since I knew I would be rewarded, I was extra-attentive. Most servers I knew were of the same mindset.
a thought occurs
There’s an excellent post on the finer points of tipping the servers in the US and I cannot for the life of me fathom why don’t the industry just start paying its workers a decent living wage? After all, if you can’t afford to pay people, you probably shouldn’t hire them.
Paying a living wage?
Them’s dirty socialeest thoughts.What’s next, affordable and readily available healthcare for all?
As much as I agree with the sentiment for many, many reasons, the problem isn’t a jingoist backlash against the dirty word “socialism”. The problem is with traditionalism and individualism.
First, the reason the system is set up this way is to encourage attentiveness to one’s job. The idea is that the server/bartender/whomever is serving the customer, not the restaurant, and therefore the customer should determine how much his or her employee should be paid, depending on the skill level of the employee.
But, this is the way it has been in the United States for at least a century, which makes it hard to change without a complete overhaul of the system. The way many restaurants deal with it is to include gratuity, or leave it up to the servers to include it—many restaurants in New York City, for example (where I waited tables for a long time) do that. But because the concept of tipping what one feels is appropriate is so ingrained in the American consciousness, that has its own host of issues. For an example, I once had a customer from the Midwest try to tell me it was illegal to even suggest a tip (it’s not, and the restaurant had printed it on the check, not me); for another example, foreign customers (including English customers*) often take particular issue with the concept of tipping purely because they are not used to having to think about it (it isn’t uncommon for foreign customers to refuse, despite knowing American practices, to tip because they don’t have to back home).
Making it even more difficult is the fact that a minority of staff in tipped jobs—but a sizable minority—would prefer the system to remain as it is. If you’re working in an Applebee’s in Georgia, for example, a living wage might be preferred. But not if you’re working for Gramercy Tavern, or any number of other private (or classier) restaurants, where a server can expect to make $2000 per week. I made twice as much money as a waiter than I do as an English professor, and I was at middle-of-the-road restaurants. I knew people who paid their college tuitions in cash from what they made over the summer down the shore, after what they spent going out partying every night. There are multiple class action lawsuits currently being processed from both restaurants and casinos because management began taking a cut of the staffs’ tips—they did so because the staff were making so much money that no one wanted to move up to management since they’d be taking a huge pay cut to do so (Wynn casinos in Vegas and De Niro’s restaurant in NYC, for a couple of examples). Waiters won’t make $80k on a living wage.
I personally feel that the payment of staff should be the responsibility of the employer (in the above examples, management positions should have been paid more—that’s the fault of greediness in the upper execs and owners). But to boil tipping down to a backlash against the scary idea of “socialism” is to gloss over an incredibly complicated facet of life. (Side note: This isn’t just an American issue; the Wikipedia page on tipping includes subsections for forty-three different countries, and leaves out countries I’ve been to which have their own standards.) I think the fact that restaurants are beginning to include gratuity shows that the system is changing; more and more, people are beginning to realize that customers want to pay as little as possible, generally, so servers end up getting fucked (the common argument is that the good tips make up for the bad tips, but of course my argument is that good tips shouldn’t have to cancel out bad tips from cheap customers). But in the meantime, we have to deal with this grey area.
(*I mention English customers specifically because I am under the impression the people I am reblogging are from England, or at least the UK. Waiters who work in restaurants heavily trafficked by international customers learn all the subtle nuances of the various cultures they deal with; we added gratuity at our discretion at the last restaurant in which I worked, and it was often dependent on where we thought the customer was from [that might sound shitty, but that mindset is pervasive throughout the industry so that employees can feed their families]. English customers were tricky, partially because of a major difference between the older customers and the younger. Older English customers generally did not tip; one might expect $5, regardless of the check, because they understood tipping is required here, but the amount was a foreign concept for them. Younger English customers, however, usually tipped better than most Americans. I don’t know particularly why this was, but I imagine it has a lot to do with the systemic change I was writing about. Awareness and acceptance take time, but they also do take place.)
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Top Text: “IT’S CUTE HOW YOU THINK THAT WANTING SOMETHING SPECIFIC”
Bottom Text: “MAKES YOU A DIFFICULT CUSTOMER.”]These people are funny. They’re the people that are actually a PLEASURE to serve. Honey, asking for a different size because the shirt you’re trying on doesn’t fit doesn’t make you difficult! Trust me, I’ve seen difficult, and it’s not you.
But thanks for being aware of your behavior all the same!
I used to love the restaurant version of these people, too. You aren’t being difficult if your order came out wrong and you’d like it to be corrected… you’re a paying customer, and you deserve to get what you ordered. Being nasty and having unrealistic expectations is being difficult; asking to get what you ordered is not.
Beware of Radioactive Ebola Leopard: SIGNAL BOOST FOR SOMEONE IN ALABAMA: My father just smashed my laptop. I need to get out of here.
Backstory: a few weeks ago, I accepted an internship with the DC Center for LGBT Resources. My father found out, threatened to kick me out if I did it, and basically raged on and on for a while. My flight to DC is on May 24th, and I’m…
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saɪkoʊ lɪŋɡwɪst: Dear all English-related majors,
Learn basic grammar skills. Today I read an email from a fellow journalism major with the following sentence:
“Please try and have it ready by Saturday.”
First off, it’s dead week (and finals…
Just to be clear, even regular old English majors aren’t in school to learn how to read and write English. An English major studies literature; the communication of those studies is important, but nonetheless secondary, and I routinely read scholarly articles that break standard grammatical rules*. Basic grammar is taught in K-12, with any residual deficiencies generally covered in remedial and introductory composition courses one’s freshman year of college. Any discussion of grammar after that is either (a) because what was written is unclear, and therefore needs to be revised for the sake of clarity, or (b) in terms of determining meaning within the frame of a particular literary or scholarly work, since authors routinely break from form in order to suit their needs (see above). Even creative writing majors don’t study grammatical rules other than for the sake of clarity.
Even at the composition level, though, I can tell you—because that’s what I teach for a living—that the study of grammar is a very small part of my courses, and this is standard. I cover grammar mostly on a case-by-case basis, with a few lectures only if I notice a persistent, class-wide problem (these usually have to do with things like comma usage and run-on sentences—so, again, it boils down to clarity more than anything). In 101, the crux of the course deals with critical thinking and rhetorical strategies—I’m less concerned with reading “try and have it ready” than I am with reading an unfocused or structurally disorganized essay. The readings are all essays designed to promote thought, not worksheets designed to teach grammar. 102 is similar, except we cover literature instead of non-fiction (some schools cover non-fiction in 102 as well, but I choose not to). In either case, the emphasis is on the development of an essay, not nitpicking grammar.
(As a caveat, I understand that English lit majors can be some of the worst offenders of prescriptivism. I’m not entirely sure where that stems from, considering we see example after example of canonical authors, both historical and contemporary, who break prescriptivist rules.)
*Case in point: 99% of native English speakers would not pick up on the grammatical error in this sentence because it is clear that I don’t mean the article itself broke the rules, but rather that the author(s) of the article did—this is because this type of subjective omission is common in both informal and academic writing.
Forget About It: Making the Internet More Like Our Brains
Snapchat is an iPhone app that, fascinatingly and maybe even usefully, lets you apply a time limit to the photos you share with friends. You can decide whether your recipient (or a group of recipients) sees a photo for 2 seconds, or 5, or 10 … before what they see disappears entirely. Think Path, with a focus on photos. Think Instagram, with an expiration date.
Since Snapchat allows users to send pictures to each other with slightly less fear of those pictures being seen by the wrong people, its most obvious use, Nick Bilton pointed out today, is — yep — sending suggestive photos. But the app’s blink-and-you-miss-it UI speaks, even more broadly, to a market for something much broader than just sexting. Snapchat is a silly entry in a burgeoning genre: products that harness the power not of memory, but of forgetting.
Anti-archival tools provide a countervailing force to one of the defining features of the Internet: that, with its nearly infinite space, “save all” is its default setting. Without even trying, the Internet remembers. And that doesn’t just mean that the comment you left on that Joss Whedon fan site that one time is still sitting there, emoticon-ed and gif-ed and captured for posterity within the all-knowing neurons of Google. It also means that the web, as a broad space, operates on both an assumption and an architecture of continuity. Within it, and all around it, archive is assumed. Even when we die … there, still, we are.
So when we talk about the Internet, we talk about feeds and flows and rivers and currents — things determined by their dynamism and their lack of obvious containers.
And: That’s great! It’s what makes the Internet the Internet! The only problem, however, is that constant flux-and-flow is not actually how we humans are programmed to move through the world. We live in fits and starts, in cycles and phases, and we divide our time not just socially, in shared minutes and hours, but physically. We wake. We sleep. We have beginnings. We have endings.
Read more. [Image: Snapchat]
So when will the app that allows you to save those pictures locally be invented?
I like the idea in theory. But in reality, there is always a way to circumvent something if one so desires. You might say that only someone untrustworthy would want to circumvent this technology. However, that’s the point: When we sent these types of photos, we don’t expect the person to then use them against us in any way. Therefore, if the recipient is trustworthy, it doesn’t matter whether the image has a self-destruct timer on it because he or she won’t do anything nefarious with it anyway; if the recipient isn’t trustworthy, it doesn’t matter whether the image has a self-destruct timer on it because he or she will find a way to circumvent the technology anyway.
A tip:
When emailing your professors, don’t do this:
hi prof im having a bit difficulty understanding exactly what youre asking us to do as far as assignment and also the question for the paper which is do on the 14th
That’s all there is to the email.
- I don’t know the name of this person. Email addresses rather often do not clue us in to who you are, and this person is no exception.
- I don’t know which class of mine this person is in. Most of your professors have multiple classes; if your professor is an adjunct, he or she likely has multiple classes at multiple schools. Clarify.
- If you don’t understand something, explain what it is you don’t understand. I post detailed instructions for my assignments, like many professors, and feel these instructions are clear. Therefore, you need to specify what it is you do not understand. Length? Subject matter? Style? If it’s just everything, then I have to call “laziness” and/or “bullshit”, because as a speaker of the English language, there is no way that your English professor’s instructions were so obtuse as to be incomprehensible.
This is not an odd email. This is a typical email, and it’s highly frustrating to be on the receiving end of this. Take the time to read the instructions, maybe even a second time, before asking questions; if you need to ask questions, be sure to identify yourself and make your questions specific and comprehensible. Finally, treat your emails like professional emails. I don’t require punctuation in my papers to be a pain in the ass—I require it because we use punctuation in order to be clear in our written communications. Use it at all times, not just for special occasions.
I was five minutes early for class today.
Which isn’t unusual; I don’t like to get to class insanely early, because students seem to not want to have normal conversations with me around, which means that we simply sit there in awkward silence. But, because this classroom has a lot of technology in it, it is also locked when a professor isn’t present. Clearly this isn’t always the case—if the prior professor doesn’t lock the door, it’s open for the next class. So, I got there five minutes early, unlocked the door, and went inside.
A student spent the first five minutes of class complaining that I need to tell security to open up the room “on time”, because she usually gets to class before the professor and has to wait outside. I kept trying to explain to her that they won’t do that because of the technology in the room; without a professor there, the room will remain locked unless someone else leaves it open. But she kept repeating “on time”… as if I were somehow late by being only five minutes early. And I kept trying to explain that I was not only on time, but early, so I’m not sure what her complaint really is. If she chooses to get there one hour early, does that mean she’s supposed to be let in? Class begins at X time, so it isn’t unreasonable that I get there at five minutes to X.
Anyway. I’m more writing this out because I feel like hell and have time to kill until my next class even though all I want to do is sleep. Goodbye.